Blog
February
Ivan Harden
Domestic Violence
Domestic violence is a real problem that has been becoming a larger and larger threat to American families. But what is it that pushes men and women into these types of situations? Personally I believe that a lot of these cases are made up lies for women to feel safer and more like a victim. I beleive women are actually being wronged by our extremely sexist view of domestic abuse. A woman can do almost anything to a man and, because of their physical weakness and peoples sexist views, they can get away with it. All the while a guy has to tip-toe around and be sure to not even raise his voice. I have experienced this whole thing, my mother lied about it, attempting to get a restraining order when everything she said was completely untrue. Most people don’t realize this, but if a women files a restraining order and the man doesn’t know about it and doesn’t show up, she automatically wins. This is so wrong and completely sexist.
I think that most people don’t understand that, according to more than 200-survey based studies, men are just as likely to be abused by their partner as women are. This may come as a surprise to most, but if you really think about it, it shouldn’t. The domestic abuse of men is ignored because a man who is “weak enough” to get beat up by his wife is strongly looked down upon, as we saw with Tiger Woods and various other people. Considering how badly men are seen when they are abused by their wives, think of the real statistics of how many women abuse their husbands! Think of how many men don’t report abuse from their wife because they don’t wish to appear weak. All the while men certainly can’t defend themselves because in our sexist view of this issue anything they would do in protection of themselves would be considered assault. So in my eyes, since the registered statistics are about even, then it is clear to me that there must be far more domestic abuse cases against men because of their inhibitions about reporting it, which is their own fault.
Until our society stops trying so hard to avoid sexism and over compensating because of it, these types of problems will never be fixed. We need new ideals and views on the sexes, whether that means not paying attention to them or emphasizing them, I’m not sure, but things need to change.
